@jeffcliff @shibao @Zerglingman @_roko @sim
The whole idea of trying to put the contribution to a household in terms of dollars like that is a toxic idea, and rubs me the wrong way for a number of reasons.
First, I think a good family relationship is communism. It's the one situation where it's acceptable. Each contributes what they can, and takes what they need. The familial bond is what ensures everyone does their part, unlike nearly any other situation.
If you start trying to quantify every little thing in a relationship, ultimately someone is going to get bitter because relationships aren't totally equal. Someone is always contributing more in one way or another.
A problem with specifically trying to quantify it in terms of money is that people start looking at that number and going "What if?", and suddenly a lot of people stop working on their relationship and start trying to make that dollar value, and life isn't about extracting every dollar you can out of it. Quality of life can drop for everyone if everyone is trying to do everything instead of people trying to focus on certain parts.
Megacorps want this desperately because they want as many people working as possible to drive down wages and working conditions, then paying most of their earnings to have some employee of a company watch your kids and keep your home up. They eat your life, and then they get to swallow the pay they give you right back up so they can do the things that most people want to do in the first place for you. You'll miss your child's first steps, but don't worry! You were making the money to pay someone else to see them! You'll miss your child's first words, but don't worry! You were paying someone else to hear them!
The other problem is that inevitably you get things just wrong. "There are no 401ks!" oh? I thought my wife was entitled to half of everything we've built throughout our marriage including my investments. Who knew? "There are no paid days off" oh? Here I thought I could watch the kids or do the chores and it doesn't result in any less money in her pocket. Who knew? "There are no sick days" oh? here I thought if she's sick we'll make it work so she can go be sick without worrying about things. Who knew? Here I thought we were in a partnership, but it turns out she's just a slave and if she doesn't jump when I tell her to I punish her (and not in a sexy way)
Being a stay at home mom isn't an every day vacation, but it's a pretty good gig. A lot of women want to do it but can't, and a lot of women who can feel shamed by other women for not getting out there and earning money.
Not to mention, most men don't actually sit around doing absolutely nothing, so are you going to start charging for what the man does too in order to balance the ledger?
Like I said, it just gets toxic. The article is him simping for his wife, and I support simping for your wife as the only woman you should be simping for, but that doesn't mean he's correct. It's sweet nothings, and if you take it too seriously things will get bad.
The whole idea of trying to put the contribution to a household in terms of dollars like that is a toxic idea, and rubs me the wrong way for a number of reasons.
First, I think a good family relationship is communism. It's the one situation where it's acceptable. Each contributes what they can, and takes what they need. The familial bond is what ensures everyone does their part, unlike nearly any other situation.
If you start trying to quantify every little thing in a relationship, ultimately someone is going to get bitter because relationships aren't totally equal. Someone is always contributing more in one way or another.
A problem with specifically trying to quantify it in terms of money is that people start looking at that number and going "What if?", and suddenly a lot of people stop working on their relationship and start trying to make that dollar value, and life isn't about extracting every dollar you can out of it. Quality of life can drop for everyone if everyone is trying to do everything instead of people trying to focus on certain parts.
Megacorps want this desperately because they want as many people working as possible to drive down wages and working conditions, then paying most of their earnings to have some employee of a company watch your kids and keep your home up. They eat your life, and then they get to swallow the pay they give you right back up so they can do the things that most people want to do in the first place for you. You'll miss your child's first steps, but don't worry! You were making the money to pay someone else to see them! You'll miss your child's first words, but don't worry! You were paying someone else to hear them!
The other problem is that inevitably you get things just wrong. "There are no 401ks!" oh? I thought my wife was entitled to half of everything we've built throughout our marriage including my investments. Who knew? "There are no paid days off" oh? Here I thought I could watch the kids or do the chores and it doesn't result in any less money in her pocket. Who knew? "There are no sick days" oh? here I thought if she's sick we'll make it work so she can go be sick without worrying about things. Who knew? Here I thought we were in a partnership, but it turns out she's just a slave and if she doesn't jump when I tell her to I punish her (and not in a sexy way)
Being a stay at home mom isn't an every day vacation, but it's a pretty good gig. A lot of women want to do it but can't, and a lot of women who can feel shamed by other women for not getting out there and earning money.
Not to mention, most men don't actually sit around doing absolutely nothing, so are you going to start charging for what the man does too in order to balance the ledger?
Like I said, it just gets toxic. The article is him simping for his wife, and I support simping for your wife as the only woman you should be simping for, but that doesn't mean he's correct. It's sweet nothings, and if you take it too seriously things will get bad.
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