I am legitimately triggered by some things. Yeah I know, I know. But I am.
I was in an abusive relationship a long time ago, and some of the forms of abuse including using the state to harass me after I finally left, and that left scars even years and years later.
When I read about certain things, my blood pressure rises, my mind goes back to those days sitting in my apartment like one of those submarine movies where you don't want to make a peep lest someone hear you and hit you with a depth charge, and being terrified every time I leave the house because there's a chance she sees me and concocts some new story about the horrible things fictional me has done.
CWs aren't useful for me for two reasons: First, how the hell is everyone else supposed to know what will set me off? Second, what good is that going to do? I'll avoid confronting my demons, and those wounds will be given opportunity to fester.
Now there's the problem of imposing a duty of producing CWs on people who aren't troubled by my problems. Every time people have to think about another way they could hurt someone's feelings, it's another filter between you and the rest of the world. Great, it's just one filter. Then it's two. Then it's ten. Then it's one hundred. Eventually you attenuate people so badly you don't get to see the interesting things about them.
The solution to me appears to be cultivating personal strength and grit. Instead of demanding the world change, we must change ourselves to be adapted to the world.
I was in an abusive relationship a long time ago, and some of the forms of abuse including using the state to harass me after I finally left, and that left scars even years and years later.
When I read about certain things, my blood pressure rises, my mind goes back to those days sitting in my apartment like one of those submarine movies where you don't want to make a peep lest someone hear you and hit you with a depth charge, and being terrified every time I leave the house because there's a chance she sees me and concocts some new story about the horrible things fictional me has done.
CWs aren't useful for me for two reasons: First, how the hell is everyone else supposed to know what will set me off? Second, what good is that going to do? I'll avoid confronting my demons, and those wounds will be given opportunity to fester.
Now there's the problem of imposing a duty of producing CWs on people who aren't troubled by my problems. Every time people have to think about another way they could hurt someone's feelings, it's another filter between you and the rest of the world. Great, it's just one filter. Then it's two. Then it's ten. Then it's one hundred. Eventually you attenuate people so badly you don't get to see the interesting things about them.
The solution to me appears to be cultivating personal strength and grit. Instead of demanding the world change, we must change ourselves to be adapted to the world.
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