My first adult relationship ended up being really abusive, and once I finally left after lots of nasty stuff, she started going to the police constantly for months accusing me of all sorts of stuff while stalking me at my new apartment, at my workplace, leaving threatening letters, all sorts of stuff.
Over all those months, the cops dutifully came to harass me every time she came up with a new conspiracy theory. I just wanted it all to be over, but it didn't end for a long time. I can only imagine how things would have turned out if I didn't ensure I had a good alibi from the moment I left her house that night.
Privileging anyone with an presumption of victimhood is dangerous. Particularly once those people realize they have that presumption, they can use it to turn the tools meant to protect abused into tools of the abuser.
That's one of the reasons why there needs to be an impartial process, because in the passion of the moment sometimes your lynch mob gets it wrong.
Over all those months, the cops dutifully came to harass me every time she came up with a new conspiracy theory. I just wanted it all to be over, but it didn't end for a long time. I can only imagine how things would have turned out if I didn't ensure I had a good alibi from the moment I left her house that night.
Privileging anyone with an presumption of victimhood is dangerous. Particularly once those people realize they have that presumption, they can use it to turn the tools meant to protect abused into tools of the abuser.
That's one of the reasons why there needs to be an impartial process, because in the passion of the moment sometimes your lynch mob gets it wrong.
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I was new to the city so I guess I get to swing because I don't have a bunch of friends to vouch for me...