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It was scary when I wrote it, it was scary when I read it back to edit it, it was scary when I went back to check the audio book, the idea in The Graysonian Ethic's chapter called "Build something" that while it might feel great not to have a family in your 20s, someday if you don't spend your life building something real you might be all alone, cold, incompetent, and your final moments you'll reach out for a hand that will never be there because you didn't bother building anything and the last time anyone ever thinks of you is your landlord cursing you for the burden you've left.

"Why is it that when women date a lot of guys she's a whore but when guys date a lot of women he's a player?"

Because a guy's bros will congratulate him for success, and a chick's sisters will shame her for hers.

Not saying that ultimately that sort of success is fulfilling in the long term, but that's why the two divergent attitudes exist.

My little brother was highly successful with women and I was happy for him and all (which was my point), but to be honest I saw pretty quickly that it didn't make him happy. He fell down a rabbit hole that only ended when I drove across the continent to get him out of a traphouse he'd been living in.

This was prior to tinder et al, I'm an old fucker now. (And even now I tell guys that internet dating is like the light from poltergeist -- don't look at the light, don't go into the light)