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I've been putting in a lot of effort from my son's birth because of something I learned: Our brains start out with all these neurological links, and the ones that get used thrive and the ones that don't die. By 2 years old, many of the links we'll grow up with already exist, and they're further strengthened and culled throughout childhood.

So I imagine a boy who sees a man who is in control of himself despite all the things testosterone does to a brain, and that's very impactful early on. Being a role model really is that important.

I've also come to a hypothesis I won't get to test for a long time: I think you raise your kid to be a teenager in their earlier years. They don't have the changes of puberty going on so those are the times you have to impart the lessons you want to teach, because the voice your son or daughter will hear in their head when he or she is 15 isn't going to be the one you're speaking with at that time, it'll be the one you spoke with throughout the years prior to that. That's why I think it's so important to build a foundation long before puberty takes over and turns the volume either up or down depending on whether it's a girl or a boy.