Ah, I see.
I can relate. When I started to push back and change my circumstances after college, I hadn't even been on a date, or held a girl's hand, or anything of the sort since grade school. And there I was, all alone in a strange city far from nowhere.
I can relate. When I started to push back and change my circumstances after college, I hadn't even been on a date, or held a girl's hand, or anything of the sort since grade school. And there I was, all alone in a strange city far from nowhere.
Just looking at the number of people with access to your DMs, especially if you're running your own instance or are on a fairly small instance, you're better off if only because there aren't tens of thousands of twitter employees who are two seconds away from finding every message you've made to anyone at any given second.
It has to be a game, and a game you either play correctly or incorrectly, and if she rejects you it's just because you weren't playing correctly and it's not because you're a fundamentally loathsome creature who will never know love and you need to just accept you're not a chad and you'll never meet a girl who likes you.
If I didn't stop thinking about how scared I was and just make a silly joke about personal space to a cute girl in line at crowded bar one time, I never would have set off a chain of events that would ended with my long happy marriage and beautiful son.
Along the way I did get rejected sometimes, occasionally by girls I'd really started to get to know and like, maybe even girls I'd started to get physical with. It hurt worse than getting punched in the gut. There were some serious times I just wanted to crawl in the corner and die. You need to tell yourself *something* so you will take that pain and get back up and try again and not take it personally. So you say it's a game and you lost but you'll do better next time.
If I didn't stop thinking about how scared I was and just make a silly joke about personal space to a cute girl in line at crowded bar one time, I never would have set off a chain of events that would ended with my long happy marriage and beautiful son.
Along the way I did get rejected sometimes, occasionally by girls I'd really started to get to know and like, maybe even girls I'd started to get physical with. It hurt worse than getting punched in the gut. There were some serious times I just wanted to crawl in the corner and die. You need to tell yourself *something* so you will take that pain and get back up and try again and not take it personally. So you say it's a game and you lost but you'll do better next time.
It's funny because in my view, this still comes back to the fact that you have to work on yourself. It's a choice to become that person.
Economics means a lot more than just money, and this is another case where economics can be a lens through which to view something. Why would someone support you? Of course the world isn't digital, so it isn't like there's any one switch you throw to answer that, but you'd support someone else because you think there's value in doing so.
I've been on the wrong side of too many "oh hes a single man he's evil and just wants one thing", and it sucks. But life is hard and reality is there's a lot of men like that out there. There's a lot of liars and used car salesmen, lots of people who will promise one thing and deliver another. Lots of single mothers out there who were duped.
And you know, you can get that support by being attractive in ways too. Of course different people are seeking different things. Some people want to see their friends happy. Some people want to feel like they've helped someone who is a good person. Some people can't really be understood so logically. But there is something there, a feeling in their gut.
So that's another reason why you work to build something, be intelligent, learn wisdom, be virtuous, be interesting, and bravely push yourself out of your comfort zone despite millions of years of primate socialisation in our DNA telling you not to.
Or not. Whatever.
Economics means a lot more than just money, and this is another case where economics can be a lens through which to view something. Why would someone support you? Of course the world isn't digital, so it isn't like there's any one switch you throw to answer that, but you'd support someone else because you think there's value in doing so.
I've been on the wrong side of too many "oh hes a single man he's evil and just wants one thing", and it sucks. But life is hard and reality is there's a lot of men like that out there. There's a lot of liars and used car salesmen, lots of people who will promise one thing and deliver another. Lots of single mothers out there who were duped.
And you know, you can get that support by being attractive in ways too. Of course different people are seeking different things. Some people want to see their friends happy. Some people want to feel like they've helped someone who is a good person. Some people can't really be understood so logically. But there is something there, a feeling in their gut.
So that's another reason why you work to build something, be intelligent, learn wisdom, be virtuous, be interesting, and bravely push yourself out of your comfort zone despite millions of years of primate socialisation in our DNA telling you not to.
Or not. Whatever.
Going to get my passport a few weeks ago. My birth certificate is 30 years old, so it had some paper missing from the sides. "Oh, there might be something written there, I can't accept this"
WHAT DO YOU THINK WAS WRITTEN THERE? SIKE?
WHAT DO YOU THINK WAS WRITTEN THERE? SIKE?
careful, the breakfast throne is sticky.
(From pancake syrup, get your mind out of the gutter)
(From pancake syrup, get your mind out of the gutter)
Define support. Most of the men I've helped had to put themselves in gear more than anything, and stop thinking there was something else or someone else that was going to do it for them.
The best way to show you intend to succeed is to have some idea of what comes next afterwards. Very few people are actually incels once you cast off the chains that keep them from their potential.
The best way to show you intend to succeed is to have some idea of what comes next afterwards. Very few people are actually incels once you cast off the chains that keep them from their potential.
Yes, there's also some reddit-alikes with lemmy and lotide which are also both fully federated as well. Lots of great options, and because they're federated you can join discussions with others with your own instances.
I'm a big fan of the community on wolfballs.com and participate a lot from my own lotide instance, but there's lots of different instances out there, and they're interoperable unless someone goes out of their way to make them not interoperable -- which goes to graf's point.
I'm a big fan of the community on wolfballs.com and participate a lot from my own lotide instance, but there's lots of different instances out there, and they're interoperable unless someone goes out of their way to make them not interoperable -- which goes to graf's point.
Nick was on verified.af, one of dick masterson's instances, but it went down and dick never bothered bringing it back.
Which was sad, watching madcucks fight with spinsters was hilarious.
Which was sad, watching madcucks fight with spinsters was hilarious.
Countries like Japan keep on borrowing because they have low inflation, but countries like Zimbabwe need to stop borrowing because inflation drives feedback mechanisms that stop the expansion of debt.
Let's swing this over to more human terms. You might predict that poor people have more debt than rich people. After all, the rich are rich and can afford to pay it off so you'd think they would, and the poor are poor and can't afford to pay it off. Therefore, it seems intuitive that the poor would have more debt than the rich. That's absolutely untrue, however. In reality, the wealthier one is, the more debt they tend to have.
Why? Because they can. They can convince the bank to give them huge amounts of money at a reasonable interest rate because they're rich and they can afford to pay it back. Meanwhile, a poor person will struggle to get anyone to give them any sort of loans at any interest rate because they're poor and will struggle to pay it back.
Some people actually do make the mistake of assuming this means that in order to be rich you must be in debt, or that if you want to get rich you must become incredibly debt laden first. That's getting the cause and effect backwards.
Let's swing this over to more human terms. You might predict that poor people have more debt than rich people. After all, the rich are rich and can afford to pay it off so you'd think they would, and the poor are poor and can't afford to pay it off. Therefore, it seems intuitive that the poor would have more debt than the rich. That's absolutely untrue, however. In reality, the wealthier one is, the more debt they tend to have.
Why? Because they can. They can convince the bank to give them huge amounts of money at a reasonable interest rate because they're rich and they can afford to pay it back. Meanwhile, a poor person will struggle to get anyone to give them any sort of loans at any interest rate because they're poor and will struggle to pay it back.
Some people actually do make the mistake of assuming this means that in order to be rich you must be in debt, or that if you want to get rich you must become incredibly debt laden first. That's getting the cause and effect backwards.
(why would anyone call this beanpole fat?)
Besides himself because he's an asshole like that. :P
Besides himself because he's an asshole like that. :P
"I deserve rape? Awww, that's the nicest thing anyone ever said to me! Thank you so much!"
Why on earth would debt forgiveness be deflationary?
A bunch of money would be created, then handed to universities (and book stores, and land lords, and grocery stores, and liquor store, and bars). Then, instead of the individual paying it back and reducing the money supply, the state paid it using state debt which will not be paid back during our lifetime. The places that got the money won't have to pay it back, so the number of dollars in the system which would have shrank over time if student loans were paid back will stay the same in the base case since the dollars that would have been removed from the economy by paying back the loans will not ever be paid back, and in the worst case will be inflationary since the individuals who previously were encumbered with debt might then go out and take out additional debts to buy all those things that student loans were preventing them from going out and buying.
A bunch of money would be created, then handed to universities (and book stores, and land lords, and grocery stores, and liquor store, and bars). Then, instead of the individual paying it back and reducing the money supply, the state paid it using state debt which will not be paid back during our lifetime. The places that got the money won't have to pay it back, so the number of dollars in the system which would have shrank over time if student loans were paid back will stay the same in the base case since the dollars that would have been removed from the economy by paying back the loans will not ever be paid back, and in the worst case will be inflationary since the individuals who previously were encumbered with debt might then go out and take out additional debts to buy all those things that student loans were preventing them from going out and buying.
Ironically, I do have a book, and attraction is one of the chapters (of many).
I start off with a lengthy warning about the dangers, that you can mess up your life if you thoughtlessly go messing around.
Then I talk a lot about evolution and our place in the universe. I talk about the fact that we developed from a 50 person society and that our fears are inherited from there, and that those concerns aren't accurate today.
Next, I talk about the dangers of becoming more attractive to yourself instead of to the person you want to be attracted to. There's (cishet) men who become the perfect women and (cishet) women who try to become the perfect man, and that's stupid. Heterosexual men are attracted to one thing and heterosexual women are attracted to another.
Then I go through the old "find, meet, attract, close" framework with an emphasis on examples.
I talk a lot about calibration and by extension consent. All that leads into a discussion on oneitis and putting someone on a pedestal passively instead of just pulling the trigger and either being accepted or rejected. Then I tell stories about target fixation and the bad stuff that comes from that.
Then I point out that dating is a 2 way street, and you're trying to find out if you like her just as she's trying to find out if she likes you, it's not just a robotic drive to be accepted.
I spend a lot of time talking about what men and women find attractive and busting the myth that you must be an Adonis or Adonette to find love, and the realities of what it's like to be a beautiful woman. That's an eye opener for lots of men.
Then more warnings. Be careful to calibrate and get consent each step of the way. Careful of narcissists, or borderlinesz or people who are fun but dangerous, or perpetual victims. But then I point out it's not all bad and there are diamonds in the rough out there. Since the book is to my son, I talk about his mother. That leads into a discussion of economics applied to dating (remember I've said some economics isn't about money?)
I actually do warn as you've said about pick up artists and dating coaches taking your money long after you don't need them anymore, and that you need to remember to be yourself and not a pua robot.
I end the chapter warning that picking up women shouldn't be the point of your existence. It can make you temporarily happy always having a new girl hanging off your arm, maybe even into your 30s, 40s, 50s, but soon you're just the old guy who banged a lot of women (or the old lady who banged a lot of men) and this idea refers back to two chapters that I think are the core of the book, about building something real and thinking ahead about your life and death.
So yeah, no strange nlp hypnosis stuff, just some basic ideas and advice that I think could help get started so you're not stuck in incel mode waiting for the universe to provide you a girlfriend for your positive karma...
I start off with a lengthy warning about the dangers, that you can mess up your life if you thoughtlessly go messing around.
Then I talk a lot about evolution and our place in the universe. I talk about the fact that we developed from a 50 person society and that our fears are inherited from there, and that those concerns aren't accurate today.
Next, I talk about the dangers of becoming more attractive to yourself instead of to the person you want to be attracted to. There's (cishet) men who become the perfect women and (cishet) women who try to become the perfect man, and that's stupid. Heterosexual men are attracted to one thing and heterosexual women are attracted to another.
Then I go through the old "find, meet, attract, close" framework with an emphasis on examples.
I talk a lot about calibration and by extension consent. All that leads into a discussion on oneitis and putting someone on a pedestal passively instead of just pulling the trigger and either being accepted or rejected. Then I tell stories about target fixation and the bad stuff that comes from that.
Then I point out that dating is a 2 way street, and you're trying to find out if you like her just as she's trying to find out if she likes you, it's not just a robotic drive to be accepted.
I spend a lot of time talking about what men and women find attractive and busting the myth that you must be an Adonis or Adonette to find love, and the realities of what it's like to be a beautiful woman. That's an eye opener for lots of men.
Then more warnings. Be careful to calibrate and get consent each step of the way. Careful of narcissists, or borderlinesz or people who are fun but dangerous, or perpetual victims. But then I point out it's not all bad and there are diamonds in the rough out there. Since the book is to my son, I talk about his mother. That leads into a discussion of economics applied to dating (remember I've said some economics isn't about money?)
I actually do warn as you've said about pick up artists and dating coaches taking your money long after you don't need them anymore, and that you need to remember to be yourself and not a pua robot.
I end the chapter warning that picking up women shouldn't be the point of your existence. It can make you temporarily happy always having a new girl hanging off your arm, maybe even into your 30s, 40s, 50s, but soon you're just the old guy who banged a lot of women (or the old lady who banged a lot of men) and this idea refers back to two chapters that I think are the core of the book, about building something real and thinking ahead about your life and death.
So yeah, no strange nlp hypnosis stuff, just some basic ideas and advice that I think could help get started so you're not stuck in incel mode waiting for the universe to provide you a girlfriend for your positive karma...
There's a fantastic blog on Canadian real estate and investment at https://greaterfool.ca/ which covers a lot of these subjects.
But let's say that foreign investment is 20% of homes in Toronto. That means that 80% are owned domestically. For all those seven-figure sales, a Canadian goes to a Canadian bank, borrows Canadian money, hands it to another Canadian.
But let's say that foreign investment is 20% of homes in Toronto. That means that 80% are owned domestically. For all those seven-figure sales, a Canadian goes to a Canadian bank, borrows Canadian money, hands it to another Canadian.
It's no accident that some of the most expensive places to live in the world are commonwealth nations: England's London, Canada's Vancouver and Toronto, and Australia's Melbourne.
All three countries have faced a collapsing industrial base, and in the face of that, real estate was a quick and politically easy way for governments to keep people feeling rich despite not being rich.
In Canada in particular, I'm well acquainted with the tens of thousands of dollars in free money available to buy a house, and that's on top of artificially low interest rates propped up by the central bank (and one of the central bankers who led the charge into housing, Mark Carney, ended up as the head of the Bank of England, unsurprisingly). Political parties fell over themselves to come up with new ways to prop up the housing market. If I wanted to, I could go to the bank tomorrow, and borrow a million dollars to buy a house in Toronto (assuming I could buy a house for that little). That's absurd, I simply shouldn't be allowed to do that, but I am. People want to blame foreign investment, and that's certainly a small part of it, but access to unlimited credit has been the primary driver of real estate, and most purchasers of real estate are people living in those cities. In Vancouver, there's an absurdly high tax on buying places to live and not living in them, and I think in Toronto there's even a foreign investment ban, but there's still people buying houses for a million bucks.
The absurdly high house prices are basically the genesis many of the other parts of the high cost of living. People living in those areas need a lot more money to live because just renting an apartment is absurdly expensive.
This isn't because the conservatives spent a lot of time in power in Canada, at least. The liberals are known as "Canada's natural ruling party", and there are no term limits, so they were totally in control of the government from the late 90s through to the late 2000s, then eventually got power in 2015 and have formed the government ever since (meanwhile housing costs have done nothing but rise). For most of that time, the liberals were in charge of Ontario, and the liberals or NDP were in charge of BC.
As I recall, Melborne has incredibly beneficial tax incenentives for purchasing property which people take advantage of to purchase multiple properties.
As for the UK, I believe the biggest thing in London is it's a great place to launder your money, and real estate is one of the ways to do it. It's been a while, but I think that was the big thing.
A Canadian (Doctorow) claiming that high cost of living is because of the eeeeevil conservatives just doesn't track. I mean, they contributed, but it was a team effort.
Now, energy is another thing, and it's a lot simpler. It comes down to a few little things:
1. "green" policy that just means we "stop using fossil fuels" by transferring those activities to dictatorships that don't care about being green and only allow those dictatorships to drill for oil;
2. the covid lockdowns and the government response;
3. central bank money printing; and of course
4. shtickinittaputinbrah
So it's a complicated thing, but a lot of it starts with monetary and fiscal policy and banking regulations and taxation.
House prices are starting to drop now, and it appears to be happening exactly because interest rates are finally starting to rise in response to inflation. That should give a great clue as to where the solution will be.
All three countries have faced a collapsing industrial base, and in the face of that, real estate was a quick and politically easy way for governments to keep people feeling rich despite not being rich.
In Canada in particular, I'm well acquainted with the tens of thousands of dollars in free money available to buy a house, and that's on top of artificially low interest rates propped up by the central bank (and one of the central bankers who led the charge into housing, Mark Carney, ended up as the head of the Bank of England, unsurprisingly). Political parties fell over themselves to come up with new ways to prop up the housing market. If I wanted to, I could go to the bank tomorrow, and borrow a million dollars to buy a house in Toronto (assuming I could buy a house for that little). That's absurd, I simply shouldn't be allowed to do that, but I am. People want to blame foreign investment, and that's certainly a small part of it, but access to unlimited credit has been the primary driver of real estate, and most purchasers of real estate are people living in those cities. In Vancouver, there's an absurdly high tax on buying places to live and not living in them, and I think in Toronto there's even a foreign investment ban, but there's still people buying houses for a million bucks.
The absurdly high house prices are basically the genesis many of the other parts of the high cost of living. People living in those areas need a lot more money to live because just renting an apartment is absurdly expensive.
This isn't because the conservatives spent a lot of time in power in Canada, at least. The liberals are known as "Canada's natural ruling party", and there are no term limits, so they were totally in control of the government from the late 90s through to the late 2000s, then eventually got power in 2015 and have formed the government ever since (meanwhile housing costs have done nothing but rise). For most of that time, the liberals were in charge of Ontario, and the liberals or NDP were in charge of BC.
As I recall, Melborne has incredibly beneficial tax incenentives for purchasing property which people take advantage of to purchase multiple properties.
As for the UK, I believe the biggest thing in London is it's a great place to launder your money, and real estate is one of the ways to do it. It's been a while, but I think that was the big thing.
A Canadian (Doctorow) claiming that high cost of living is because of the eeeeevil conservatives just doesn't track. I mean, they contributed, but it was a team effort.
Now, energy is another thing, and it's a lot simpler. It comes down to a few little things:
1. "green" policy that just means we "stop using fossil fuels" by transferring those activities to dictatorships that don't care about being green and only allow those dictatorships to drill for oil;
2. the covid lockdowns and the government response;
3. central bank money printing; and of course
4. shtickinittaputinbrah
So it's a complicated thing, but a lot of it starts with monetary and fiscal policy and banking regulations and taxation.
House prices are starting to drop now, and it appears to be happening exactly because interest rates are finally starting to rise in response to inflation. That should give a great clue as to where the solution will be.
The key here is that if there's an honest truth to be told, represent it with the truth, not with cherry picked or out of context data.
It breaks good arguments.
It breaks good arguments.
It's great that you can get electricity cheap in what -- Norway? Sweden? But if you're not in Norway or Sweden and instead you're in Germany or Italy the fact that they drag the average down is cold comfort.