It must suck for people who can't be politely negative, who are either rude or a pushover, nothing in between.
Certainly more common IRL than online it seems. I don't know why it would be easier. I guess because you can't hear people's true tone of voice?
Yeah, exactly. You can say some pretty ruthless words but some intonation and body language can make it perfectly clear you're not trying to be angry or malicious, whereas in text you have to try to express what you're saying, and for example if you were just giving someone a friendly reminder, you can hear someone being friendly but often "just a friendly reminder" comes off either being used in and ironic sense for a not so friendly reminder, or generally just have a little bit more malice to it then the writer likely intended.
It's one reason why sometimes it takes me 3 days to compose an email that I could have done over the phone or in person in 30 seconds, sitting there trying to figure out exactly the best way to express a tone that would just come naturally.
It's one reason why sometimes it takes me 3 days to compose an email that I could have done over the phone or in person in 30 seconds, sitting there trying to figure out exactly the best way to express a tone that would just come naturally.
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Also the public/private aspect. Irl you have a whole spectrum of different modes between the two along with complex social cues as to when to approach someone or what to say and how to act.
Online you have "publicize to the whole world", or "private" with the possibility that someone will publicize to the whole world. That is in addition to cancelling being popularized to cancel opponents. Like in Soviet satellite states where you could accuse your neighbor in order to take his apartment with the added benefit of being able to use anything he ever said to you or the world.
Then there is the very common behavior of dividing your attention across a multitude of small groups while those you speak to might be focusing on a specific one. While irl you generally expend the same amount of attention with those you speak to, or it is define by the context, such as when you go to a lecture.
Probably there are many other features that make online communication very different from irl and yet it's very common for people to behave similarly with pretty bad results.
Also the public/private aspect. Irl you have a whole spectrum of different modes between the two along with complex social cues as to when to approach someone or what to say and how to act.
Online you have "publicize to the whole world", or "private" with the possibility that someone will publicize to the whole world. That is in addition to cancelling being popularized to cancel opponents. Like in Soviet satellite states where you could accuse your neighbor in order to take his apartment with the added benefit of being able to use anything he ever said to you or the world.
Then there is the very common behavior of dividing your attention across a multitude of small groups while those you speak to might be focusing on a specific one. While irl you generally expend the same amount of attention with those you speak to, or it is define by the context, such as when you go to a lecture.
Probably there are many other features that make online communication very different from irl and yet it's very common for people to behave similarly with pretty bad results.